If we suffered a loss in childhood and never received adequate comfort and support, we will be over sensitized to any losses that we experience as adults. In other words, our “sorrow” file is filled. Since we have repressed our childhood experience, we cannot understand why we feel such sorrow in reaction to what seems to be a relatively insignificant event.
Fortunately, our child is alive and living in our unconscious mind. If we can give our inner child what was needed before and never received, we can begin to heal our old pain. In this manner, we will learn to discriminate between the pain of our childhood and the pain of the present. Then, we can take a moment to reassure our inner child that he or she is safe and that we, the adult, will handle the situation at hand.
The Unconscious Part II—Susan Carol PHD